I’ve come to a rather obvious yet powerful realization lately: life isn’t supposed to only be good. If you’re not happy all the time, you’re not doing it wrong. That’s just the way it is. Today just is. Life just is.
There are vibrant, bluebird sky days. There are boring, grey sky days. There are wretched, tears-from-the-sky days. And lots of other kinds in between.
And none of them are wrong.
I mean, it’s a little ‘Captain Obvious.’ Of course, some days feel better than others. And of course, we try to skew the tally so that the days we enjoy the most outnumber the others. But somehow, when a day, or moment, doesn’t go like I want, I get pissed.
But when we judge our days, when we categorize them into good days and bad days, we’re somehow limiting own experience. When we resist some days for their lackluster quality, we’re missing out. Not on a perfect day, but on today. Right now. For better or worse.
Recently, I was reading a great parenting book (The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary <– affiliate link!) and I was especially taken by a section which tackled a parenting myth about raising “happy children” instead of teaching our children to accept life “as is.” Duh. But WOW. The meme pictured below showed up on my Facebook feed the same week.
Sometimes, it’s like the universe is trying to tell me something. Loudly!
I hear you.